Friday, February 17, 2017

There's room for two, six feet under the stars.

''She never looked nice. She looked like art, and art wasn't supposed to look nice, it was supposed to make you feel something.''
Lovely quote aint it? I don't know who wrote it though. I saw it on tumblr too many times as well as painted on a wall downtown. I just thought it was pretty amazing.
Today really isn't amazing on the other hand. One of those days when I literally want to tell everything and everyone to fuck off, fall back to bed and never get out again. Somedays you know, somedays may be lemonade but others really are like razor blades. It's funny though how these bad days just won't end. I got a little advice for those days, I know a lot of you feel like that sometimes so...
Try getting lost in something you love. For me it's music and drawing. No therapy out there better then a little GN'R and a new 2B graphite pencil running so perfectly across the paper. Even if it's just doodles watching the pencil draw the lines is really calming for me.
Remember that despite things being upside down, your heart breaking, your world falling apart, you're alive and breathing. You've made it this far and even if it feels like it will never get better, someday it will. Where you are right now it's not your final destination, you're not a tree, rooted to a single spot, the pain is temporary and it will get better.
There's a simple solution to it really. When life is good say thank you and count your blessings, enjoy it, live, and when it's bad say thank you anyways, thank you for the experience, then learn and grow. There's no light without darkness and no stars without night right? I like to think that all the bad is just the path we need to walk on to get to the good things in life.
Look for positive things in daily life even if it's hard. Could be something really small that made you smile. I was really in hell today, and the day isn't over yet, but there was a tiny moment in between as I was walking home and I cut a corner and there was a black kitten, shy looking but really adorable and as I stopped because I didn't want to scare it off, it came to me and let me pat it. And it may seem like nothing but to me it was a big thing. I still believe animals have more compassion then people ever will and it was so comforting.
Does life really have to be perfect to be wonderful? Sometimes we should all take a moment and count our blessings. No matter what happens, just having a roof over our heads and food on the table makes us richer then most. I tend to forget that a lot, which doesn't mean I'm not grateful it just means I'm used to take such things for granted but they're far from it.
You know what's funny really? We don't even know how much power we have. We are always one step, one choice from changing our lives completly. If you don't like something then change it. I get it, easier said then done, life is hard, quitting your job because you hate your boss isn't as easy as it seems specially when there's rent to pay, but come on...you literally only have one life, is it really worth not taking a risk? Is it worth being numb and ''comfortable'' in something you don't even like? I think not. Every new decision, new path is hard, but honestly I think it's worth it. We literally have all the power and control to make this life everything we ever dreamed of, so are we really going to let reality discourage us? Think about it for a second...
There's something I tell myself every morning while staring at my reflection in the mirror ''It doesn't matter how you feel, get up, dress up, show up and never give up''. I'm not saying it always helps but most days it does. You can't be the victim, you can't let life bring you down on a daily basis. Get a grip and move on. Thing is, we are all lost, you're not alone, people love to pretend to have their shit together but they don't. The older I get the more sense this has. I used to envy adults thinking well they've got their life all sorted out, boy was I wrong. Nobody knows what they're doing or the ''right way'' to do life, we're basically all winging it. Honestly you're not alone.
Overthinking is a ''silent killer''. If you keep thinking about it, it will slowly drive you insane. It's not worth it, breathe, let it go. What's done is done, you can still fix it later but there is no point in driving yourself crazy within your own mind. It's not uncommon for our minds to create issues that aren't even there as well. Inhale, exhale and remember everything will be alright, panic doesn't help you one bit.
Sometimes we are forced to move on and leave things and people behind. And that's alright, some things, some people belong in the past, we just don't see it untill we are forced to see it. Honestly though, no pain is pointless, except the pain we cause ourselves...there's beauty in hurting, when you move on, when the storm has settled take a look at what you learned, and remember just because you're struggling it doesn't mean you're failing too. You're so strong and so brave. Every single success story has a lot of hard work and struggle behind it. Good things take time, and patience and dedication is the way to reach them.
And one last thing, maybe the most important one too. When it feels like there's nothing but negativity and hate around you, do your best to be positive. This is something I'm still struggling with. It's so hard to be happy and smiling when I feel like everything is falling apart but smiling when other people or life for that matter tries to bring you down is the best attitude towards the problem you could have. You can't let the worlds ugliness or the people's negativity bring you down and crush your spirit. Some people make it their mission to bring others down and you shouldn't give them the satisfaction of winning. Thing is people will run their mouths no matter what you do, may it be wrong or right they will always find something, that's just how the human brain works, so instead of worrying about what somebody else thinks, worry about you, do right for you, if you believe in something then fight for it without backing down. Real strength and pleasure comes from doing something everyone says you can't do.
In that spirit, I will share an old picture, from this old life, a life I used to have, a life I miss everyday, but also a life I am moving on from. It's in the past, I can't go back no matter how badly I wish I could. It's over, it's done and it's time for me to take a breath and let go of what is holding me back. Doesn't mean I won't miss it, it only means I won't let it control me anymore, it may feel like it was better, that I was happier...but nothing is stopping me from making this mess that I'm stuck in right now even better then anything I ever had. All the limitations I put on myself are just in my head.
''Time to lay claim to the evidence fingerprints sell me out but our footprints' washed away from the docks downtown, it's been getting late for days and I feel myself deserving of a little time off we can kick it, hang for hours and just mouth off about the world and how we know it's going straight to hell...
Pass me another bottle, honey, the Jager's so sweet but if it keeps you around, then I'm down, meet me on Thames Street, I'll take you out though I'm hardly worth your time. In the cold you look so fierce but I'm warming up because the tension's like a fire...
We'll hit South Broadway in a matter of minutes and like a bad movie I'll drop a line, fall in the grave I've been digging myself but there's room for two, six feet under the stars.''
All time low - Six feet under the stars

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